Two victims, one dead and one sentenced to 10 years in prison. There are some many versions of the story, ravi's, the prosecutor's, the defense attorney's, the YouTube activist's, lady gaga's, Ellen's, students', etc etc. however, yesterday, while watching Ravi's interview who presumably bully clementi enough to supposedly make him take the decision of jumping off the washington bridge, I realize how vulnerable we can be. Also, how important is to talk out the problems that we have. Lastly, how important are social media in our lives but we can't make of them diaries of our lives. Thats is why people is so upset and annoyed with Ravi. He posted everything he thought about clementi on twitter or facebook. He admits that he was addicted to social media. Similarly, clementi did the same thing. I agree with the fact that facebook has become the window to share interests and what we do but people forget that the share button means share. "fuck, today suck", "lol, run out of shampoo,no showering today," etc etc. it is true we have freedom of expression yet it is not about that freedom. It is about how personal stuff invades others peoples life. In the interview Ravi regretted not talking with clementi when he had the chance instead of posting his opinions on twitter. He acknowledges that even when he was not the main reason for clementi to commit suicide (personally, I don't think Ravi was the main reason, clementi was depressed already and dealing with a lot of stress. Ravi was just the last thing clementi could bear with), he could have saved him. He could have been the ears that clementi needed to talk out his worries. But, again social media ironically isolate us. We don't need real friends if we can have virtual ones right?
So, what can we do? Can we control social medial for our benefit? I mean after all that was the goal.. Or maybe it was a CIA project to control our lives after all. But either way, we cant delete our facebooks since it is useful but we can be more responsible with it. And ask ourselves evrytime we post something to whom is that post directed. Do we really need to share "our crazy party from a month ago where I drunk too much" do I have to post myself like I am in dating site...? Well, actually the last one if people really are looking I think they can but I don't think anyone will take that person seriously to date. We have to be aware that the "share" button means to share to the 20, 100,500,1000 "friends" that we had who really don't give a damn if you run out shampoo, or you had a crappy day. People have the option of ignore in Facebook and we do it. Some people "like" your "I'm sad" comment some will comment with "awww" fewer will text u, and no one will call u to know what really happen. So, why don't we talk. Why don't we do what Ravi didn't do? Why did I have to wait to read comments online to know that she was worry about something ? Why we really never talk about what bother us? And why didn't we want to listen? That is what this blog became our tool to communicate our thoughts to readers. We cant live without facebook or twitter but let's be aware that everything we post can be held against us at anytime for anything : Jobs, schools, relationships. We need Facebook but we don't need to post everything. If we want to share something personal, let's share it with someone who cares with someone who instead of hitting the "like" button listen to us and give us advice. Let talk.
Please let's talk!
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